National Infertility awareness Week: The Same God that opened Sarah’s womb

As we are near the end of NIAW 2021, I am praying for the families still waiting to bring a baby home, still waiting to announce that they are expecting, still waiting for the double pink lines on the pregnancy test. I have been there… waiting.. not knowing… still hoping through all the pain and wondering if I should give up. 

I pray He will restore the years of shame and sorrow with double the joy. “Instead of shame, there should be a double portion.”  Isaiah 61:7  

I pray that God will restore what you have lost. Deuteronomy 30:3 God, your God, will restore everything you lost; he’ll have compassion on you; he’ll come back and pick up the pieces from all the places where you were scattered.” 

I pray That you will have more children. Deuteronomy 30:9 God, your God, will outdo himself in making things go well for you: you’ll have babies, get calves, grow crops, and enjoy an all-around good life.”

One of my favorite scriptures is Ephesians 3:20-21, “Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us.” I can’t help but think about the song, “He’s Able” by Deitrick Haddon & Voices of Unity inspired by this scripture, “don’t give up on God, cause He won’t give up on you. HE’S ABLE!” ”

The scripture Jeremiah 29:11 says, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” We may never know why God allowed infertility and loss in our lives. I still struggle with the ‘why.’ Yet, I’m learning to trust God despite the unknown.

I know that He is good. He is same God that restored Job’s family. He still the same God that opened Sarah and Rachel’s womb. He didn’t forget about them. He didn’t forget about numerous other women in this world. He didn’t forget about me. He hasn’t forgot about you. 

-Eboni 

Infertility Awareness Week: WHen your friend experiences Infertility

Infertility is often a lonely road. Sharing every experience, whether positive or negative, becomes a rollercoaster of added stress and emotion. It seems the fewer people who know the details, the easier it is to grieve, process, and plan. The easier it is to make the best decision for your family without the comments and opinions of others. Yet, the small circle of family and friends privy to the intimate details are often plagued with how to be supportive in a world unfathomable, especially if they have children of their own. Though there isn’t a playbook for grief of any kind, there are common ways to be supportive, even when you cannot relate.


How do you support your friend experiencing infertility?


I found a great article that articulates the answer to the question perfectly.

Check it out HERE

SUNDAY:INFERTILITY: LET’S TALK ABOUT IT

MONDAY: FERTILITY TREATMENTS: HOW CAN ANYONE AFFORD THEM?

Fertility Treatment: How can anyone afford them?

There are numerous solutions when it comes to helping families get pregnant. Often, the barrier is not the availability of treatment but the cost. It is rare to find an insurance company that covers fertility treatments. I recall feeling discouraged about my diagnosis, hopeful once I learned my treatment options, and then discouraged again at the cost. To make matters worse, my two insurances at the time would not cover a dime.

Healthcare is already crazy expensive. Refusing to cover fertility treatments only increases the stigma and hesitation behind seeking treatment. This is why raising awareness is essential, especially when it comes to politicians and lawmakers. We must change the narrative around seeking fertility treatment. The truth is there are too many of us who wouldn’t be parents right now without them. I am one of them.

What option do you have when you cannot afford treatment?
Luckily, there are a few.

Fertility Loan: There are financing programs specifically for covering fertility treatment. My husband and I utilize a fertility loan to help finance IVF. The positive is we were able to do it. The con was we ended up paying more for the treatment due to high-interest rate. Thankfully, we were able to payoff the loan early and save interest. If you use this method, I recommend having a quick payoff plan.

Here is a link: fertility loans

Insurance Coverage There are resources dedicated to finding insurance companies that will cover treatment. Here is tip: Most insurance companies will cover everything up to your diagnosis. So, if you know or suspect something is wrong, do not be afraid to call your doctor or contact a fertility specialist to get checked out. Remember, you will still have deductible cost.

Here is a link: Insurance coverage

Grants/ Scholarships: There are numerous programs that will assist with fertility treatment cost. Most of them require you to write about your story. I know couples who have gone this route for treatment as well as used to grants to fund adoption cost. So, it is definitely worth giving a try.

Here is a link: Grants

Savings: There is the old-school method of just saving up your money or if you are already a good steward of savings, you may have the money. I recommend opening a savings account that will build interest as you save. In addition, consider any yearly bonuses and tax returns to help.  

 I hope these resources will help your family and friends when it comes to the financial aspects of fertility treatments.

If you have anything to add, email me

ebby@ebbyslane.com Or leave a link in the comments.

If you have resources, please leave a link in the comments.

-Ebby

Infertility: Let’s Talk about it

Links for IAW

https://infertilityawareness.org/

https://ormfertility.com/niaw/

Infertility: Let’s talk About it

Anybody can experience challenges while building their family. What you don’t know is families who have dealt with some form of infertility are often surprised by their diagnosis. Even if you have an underlining condition, you never expect infertility will impact you.

Today marks the beginning of National Infertility Awareness Week 2021.



The reality is “1 in 8 couples are impacted by infertility.” Now, this week is not meant to stir fear without reason but rather spark important conversations, increase public awareness/understanding, provide guidelines for families, and more.



Too often, we suffer from this unimaginable diagnosis in secret, plagued with the stigma behind it.



We conceal our shame and turmoil with responses such as, we aren’t ready for kids right now, we are just enjoying life, when it happens, it will happen. Yet, every time we hear the dreaded questions:


When are you planning to have kids?


Are you pregnant yet?


Are you going to have any more?


A piece of us dies inside. For many, the questions are a reminder of the negative pregnancy test that haunts us each month, the stale quietness of our homes, the children we never got to meet, the keepsake box filled with belongings from the preterm and stillborn babies we mourn.

I never imagined on my worst day that infertility would be part of my story.

The keyword is “part” because this was not the end of the road for me, and it is not the end of the road for your family and friends either.



There is hope. There are answers. There are solutions. Most importantly, you are not alone.

My prayer is that this week will be about empowerment, increased understanding/awareness, and renewed faith.

What do you want to know about infertility?

Let me know in the comments Leave in an orange heart to show your support.
-Ebby

#WhatIWantYouToKnow

#NIAW2021





Prayer: If you are reading this now and suffer from infertility, I am praying especially hard for you this week. I pray for healing of your mind and body. I pray that God will give you answers to the hard questions. I pray that God will give you guidance. I pray for renewed faith and unfailing hope. I pray that God will give you peace that surpasses all understanding. 

In Jesus name, AMEN!

Links for IAW

https://infertilityawareness.org/

https://ormfertility.com/niaw/

https://resolve.org/

New Content Coming

I’M BACK!


At least, I think I am. Who knows nowadays. With everything going on in the world, it is easy to get distracted. But, I miss this.

If you’ve followed my story the last few years, you know

I have been through some gut-wrenching ordeals with dealing with infertility, loss, and depression.

I have never felt my story was just for me. I also know writing can be therapy.

With Infertility Awareness week coming soon, I am sharing pieces of my story in hopes of encouraging someone else.

I will talk about IVF, Preterm labor, how I got pregnant after years of infertility, how I was finally able to carry to term. I will also talk about making a career-change after thirty, current events, and some travel, etc.

Click the link below to learn more about Infertility Awareness Week

If you know anyone going through infertility, perhaps send them here. If you are dealing with it, I’m here if you need to talk or need some advice. We are not alone.

-Ebby

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