It’s August! It’s my birthday month! And I’m excited about it!
I used to dread celebrating my birthday. It always made me sad for a combination of reasons that had nothing to do with getting older. It was supposed to be a fun day, but it was the opposite. During my teen years, there was one year that everyone, including my parents, forgot, and I didn’t tell them. I just pretended it was another day. They were both mortified when they finally remembered. For most of my twenties, my birthday was always a reminder of things I didn’t have: no degree, no husband, no kids, etc.
When I finally met my husband, I started celebrating again. He hosted surprise dinners for me and somehow got my friends and family involved without me knowing. I thought it was super sweet of him, but I never truly let myself enjoy them because I’d made up my mind that birthdays were never good for me. When my 30th birthday came around, I threw myself a pajama party. It was super stressful to plan. I had a great time, except the power went out right in the middle of it. A year after that, I felt the excruciating pains of my first miscarriage on my birthday. So, to not be disappointed, I stopped making a big deal about them. However, in the last few years, I’ve tried to change that. My friends and I had birthdays around the same time, we started a yearly girl’s trip, which was super fun the few years it lasted. Last year, I got a brand-new car on my birthday. That was a pretty big deal for me.
This year is different, though. I’m celebrating the whole month in various ways. Yup, I’m being what I used to call people ‘extra’ for. See, I’ve learned to be intentional about every aspect of my life, and I want to enjoy it. I enjoy being me. I remember a time I couldn’t say. I’m in a good place, and it wasn’t long ago that I could say that either. I’m proud of ‘me; I love me.
So, this year, I’m celebrating myself unapologetically!
My motto this year is that I don’t need permission…. to be who God created me to be.
I also stop treating others better than I treat myself. (I’m still working on that, BTW).
And, I’m doing more of what brings me joy.
Two things that bring me joy:
1. Showing aspiring and new entrepreneurs how to leverage both business and personal credit to create multiple income streams and live a life they don’t need a vacation from. Follow @the_elconsulting for motivation and business tips!
2. Showing women how to turn their inspiring story into a book one line at a time. Follow @ebby_writer for empowerment & story-writing tips!
Lastly, I’m sharing a lesson I’ve learned every day this month.
Living in the moment,
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