REBLOG: 4 Things You Need to Eliminate From Your Life That Will Make You More Fulfilled

This was such a great post. I don’t have an excerpt, just that you should definitely read it.

Dream Big, Dream Often

Too often we conduct our lives in such a way that life actually runs us instead of vice versa.  I have used the term “live an intentional life” in the past when discussing this, but what does it actually mean?  To me, living a life of intention means determining what you want, determining the plan to get what you want and then executing that plan.  In this way you control the parts of life that you can control, leaving fewer things to chance.   And part of the planning process is determining what you need to eliminate or sacrifice to get what or where you want.

I talked to thousands of people last year via email, speaking engagements and blog comments all expressing their wish to get ahead or experience more personal and professional success.  Yet, when I watch the vast majority of people, they simply struggle with taking control…

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REBLOG: Short and Sweet Advice for Writers: Read!! (Here’s Why)

I’ve heard numerous times, to become a better writer, you must be a consistent reader. This is truth! Here’s a post that expounded on this concept.

Live to Write - Write to Live

pin confuscius readIt’s not like anyone ever has to twist my arm to get me to read. In fact, left to my own devices, I’d probably spend at least a few hours each day with my nose in a book. However, Real Life doesn’t always easily accommodate large blocks of reading time. There is almost always something more pressing that needs doing – something that seems more important – and so reading can fall off the radar.

But, reading is critical for writers. Mandatory. Non-negotiable.

You’ve heard the advice a million times: If you want to write, read. It makes sense, you suppose; but have you ever wondered why it makes sense – why reading is such an important part of becoming a writer?

When you read, it’s like taking an immersion class in the language of story and literature. And like any immersion class, the more you expose yourself to that…

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The Real Issue with Beyonce’s Super Bowl Performance

 

It’s Black History Month and I wanted to dedicate posts to black people of the past, who made a difference in American lives: Frederick Douglass, Daniel Hale Williams, Dorothy Dandridge, Sojourner Truth, etc. However, the backlash Beyonce received for her Super Bowl performance has rubbed me in a way that I must speak on it.

I’ve been reluctant to write post about #blacklivesmatters only because people believe what they want to believe regardless of the truth.

I’ve been reluctant to write post about #blacklivesmatters only because people believe what they want to believe regardless of the truth. And, if we are honest, anytime a black person attempts to defend themselves, somehow, people who do not understand and/or refuse to understand are offended.  I live in a country where my skin speaks for me as soon as I walk in a room. And therefore, I left to subconsciously prove that I am not the negative picture America portrays black people to be. You know, an uneducated black single mom cheating the system of welfare. I’m hesitant to use that example due to the harsh criticism black females receive when they are a single mom on welfare, as if they are the only ethnicity who fits this description, which they are not, by the way.

To digress, Beyoncé’s performance at the Super Bowl Halftime show was entertaining. I am proud of her for using her voice and speaking out about what’s going on in the Black community. As always, someone misinterpreted the message.

Her performance and the video Formation were meant to pay homage to the struggles Blacks have endured for years. It was, in all, a tribute to Black History Month and the present state of the Black community.

For one, her performance and the video Formation were meant to pay homage to the struggles Blacks have endured for years. It was, in all, a tribute to Black History Month and the present state of the Black community. How was it twisted into an anti-police statement? I was actually surprised when I heard that; go figure, since nothing should be of surprise these days.

you missed the message if you believe this was police slander.

Yet, you missed the message if you believe this was police slander. Yes, she has a police car sinking in the water; have you already forgotten about Hurricane Katrina?

Yes, Mayor Rudy Giuliani politics and race should not be mixed with American football, but is only acceptable if you are degrading Cam Newton, the Carolina Panther’s Quarterback for nothing other than…being black. That was sarcasm by the way.

Yes, Mayor Rudy Giuliani politics and race should not be mixed with American football, but is only acceptable if you are degrading Cam Newton, the Carolina Panther’s Quarterback for nothing other than…being black. That was sarcasm by the way.

There is a group of white people, not all of course, but there is a group.( By the way, I’m using the term white people purposely to invoke discomfort) I believe this group doesn’t have many black friends

I’ve noticed there is a group of white people, not all of course, but there is a group. (By the way, I’m using the term white people purposely to invoke discomfort). I believe this group doesn’t have many black friends. I’m sorry the token black friend or that one black coworker that you talk to at work every day doesn’t count. I’m talking about a black friend that you know on a deeper, personal level. You know each other’s extended family, you go to each other’s family outings, you have nicknames for one another, and you’ve had heart to heart conversations to know them beyond the outside shell. I believe it is this group of people with no black friends, who are offended when a production is put on with an all-black cast (The Wiz Live). They cry reverse racism because for one night on primetime television white people weren’t included. Never mind all the countless times it is an all-white ensemble cast, because that is always acceptable. Just like the all-white Oscars nominees because it is both okay and common that no other ethnicity was talented enough. We’ve grown accustomed to it, so why question it, right?

These are the people who shout ALL LIVES MATTER missing the key message that #blacklivesmatter is merely proclaiming that we matter too.

These are the people who shout ALL LIVES MATTER missing the key message that #blacklivesmatter is merely proclaiming that we matter too. However, once again the message is ignorantly twisted to the belief of Black superiority. These are the people who get offended when Black History is mentioned; they shout, “get over it, that’s a thing of the past” or that we’re only perpetuating racism by mentioning the racist acts. Oh, the one that I hear the most is that racism ended years ago and the things happening today are just coincidences. All these black men being killed by the police are coincidences? Never mind that when a young black man commits a crime he is thug, but when a young white man of the same age commits a crime, he has a broken home or some type of mental instability.

 The fact of the matter is the only thing wrong with blacks speaking openly about racism is that with new advancements in video recordings, you can no longer deny it is happening. So now, you must justify it with “he was a thug, or she shouldn’t have been mouthing off, as if words should be punishable by death.

 The real truth: you want blacks to stop mentioning racism because it makes YOU uncomfortable.

The real truth: you want blacks to stop mentioning racism because it makes YOU uncomfortable. You detested Beyonce’s video because it made YOU uncomfortable. You had an issue with her performance paying homage to black struggles because it made YOU uncomfortable. And, that my friend is white superiority; to believe, anything that makes YOU uncomfortable must change. Never mind that other ethnicities have been uncomfortable for years.

Beyonce’s performance is being deemed inappropriate and an attack on the police, because a group of people missed the message; the group that always misses the true message. Not because they cannot possibly fathom it, but because they do not nor desire to understand anything that has nothing to do with them.

So, what’s your take on the Beyoncé’s half time performance? Do you agree that it was taken out of context? Do you side with the mayor that it was inappropriate?

Living in the moment,

Ebby


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KISS & TELL: Longing For the Love of a Boy

This is a post a dear friend wrote for my blog last year. I absolutely love her love story and had to reblog in celebration of Valentine’s day coming up. Enjoy!

Ebby's Lane

Longing For the Love of a boy: My Love Story

By Guest Blogger, Jordan Flowers

As a young girl, teenager and early 20 year old woman, I prayed to God to send me a boy that would love me… all I wanted was to be loved by a boy!!!

Six years ago, I became a single mom of a baby boy, Caleb. God answered my prayers! Caleb instantly became the love of my life. I swore I would be a one child household and that the man of my dreams would already have kids because I was done. They say if you want to make God laugh, tell him your plan.  Let’s just say, he was crying from laughing so hard.

Fast-forward to life today… I am happily married, my son is six years old, I have an angel baby in heaven and a 5 month old son! My, how…

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REBLOG: Why Are We Celebrating This?

Here is a great video on the reason we celebrate Black History Month. Dr. Carter G. Woodson founded the month that was once just a week, “A visionary who believed history should be used as a source of motivation and a weapon against misinformation…”
Thank you, itsjazzysworld for sharing this!

It's Jazzy's World

Before I get too deep into February I just wanted to give you a brief history of black history month. I attend an HBCU and Black History Month is really highlighted here in almost every class. My teacher, a very eclectic, one-of-a-kind lady showed us this video in our Creative Writing Class.  I learned things I had never known and actually understood how Black History Month came to be. Hope you take a moment to watch this video and get a deeper understanding of Black History Month.

Before I get too deep into February I just wanted to give you a brief history of black history month. I attend an HBCU and Black History Month is really highlighted here in almost every class. My teacher, a very eclectic, one-of-a-kind lady showed us this video in our Creative Writing Class.  I learned things I had never known and actually understood how…

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